Ceremony as therapy
Formal ceremonies seem to be universal in human experience, addressing something very deep and basic in the human psyche. They tap into that vast subconscious reservoir of wisdom and strength that every human being possesses. To these qualities ceremonies add their own understandings of life and of God. They emphasize the presence of God in all things.
The important transitions in our lives inevitably create anxietyeven happy transitions, such as weddings. We move from the familiar to the unknown. Our role in the community may change, which means that we will be treated differently. Sometimes it is our own sense of who we are that changes. We seek to live differently. All of these changes have an anxiety of their own.
Ceremonies use the languages of the heartmetaphor, poetry, meditation, music, liturgy, and dramato address those anxieties. Bypassing the sterility of logic and analysis, a ceremony evokes the power to affirm and to heal that straightforward rational communication cannot touch.
A ceremony has the quality of set-apartness. Something special is happening! Words spoken in a ceremony will have much more impact than those same words would have in a more ordinary context. A ceremony brings new perspective to things with which we struggle.
Many ceremonies enlist the support of one’s community. The leader often represents one’s spiritual tradition, and other members of the community may be present. Even if the ceremony is done in the privacy of one’s home or of a therapist’s or pastor’s office, others are present in the participant’s imagination. Ceremonies also involve God, whose presence is acknowledged and whose blessing and support are assured.
The ceremonies presented here are down-to-earth and practical. They can easily be adapted to many situations, and can stimulate the reader to create his/her own ceremonies to meet the unique needs of the persons to whom he/she ministers.
Some of the ceremonies in this book are for use in a public place:
- a ceremony for grieving
- funeral for an aborted baby
- support for a rape survivor
- the commitment to stop smoking
- addressing children’s phobias
- leaving home
- forgiving another person
- forgiving oneself
- and more
Table of Contents
Acknowledgments. Author’s Note. Introduction: An Adoption Ceremony. Part I: Ceremonies for Healing. Divorce. A Funeral Service for an Aborted Baby. Support for a Rape Survivor. The Commitment to Stop Smoking. A Refugee Child on a Visit Home. A Memorial Service for One Killed in War. A Funeral for a Prodigal Son. Forgiving Another Person. Forgiving Oneself. Addressing Children’s Phobias. Part II: The Life Cycle. Marriage. Pre- and Postbaptism. Reaffirmation of Marriage. Leaving Home. From Home to Nursing Home. Funerals. A Ceremony for Grieving. Creating Other Ceremonies. Appendix A. Guided Meditation for Spiritual Growth. Appendix B. Pastoral Care for an Unconscious Person. Appendix C. Ministry to a Dying Person. Appendix D. Letters from Santa. Bibliography.